Motherhood

There is something in us women, that we have a natural feeling of wanting to be a mom. This happens at different times of our lives. Sometimes it happens young and we try to get pregnant with anyone just because we want to be a mom! We can do it on our own, we are tough women! It's just a baby! They are so cute and cuddly and just adorable!

For some women, it happens when most of our friends become pregnant and you become 'Auntie' to everyone else's kids so you want one too. Maybe to just fit in.

Other women, there is a "mom clock" and it goes off in the early to mid 20s or 30s. For no reason at all, we all of a sudden, just 'feel like I should have one'.

Then there are the women, who do want kids, but they want to wait for the "right time". Whether this is after college, after marriage, after you have done what you want to do in your career, or some other time that fits in with your life plan. 

We have this idea of motherhood that is perfect and pure, it is full of love and we all have the perfect kids in our perfect world. Never a tear or never getting upset.

Pregnancy is a beautiful thing, so we are told! And Motherhood, well, there is nothing else like it!

No, there is nothing else like it!

I am not a mom yet, but I am an auntie to 2 gorgeous nephews! I have spent many days and nights and weeks at a time staying at my sister's house helping out with the boys. I have learned a few things.

Yes, the kids are just as adorable as we all have imagined and they are just as funny as we have all heard! BUT! Yes, there is a but! 

Let me tell you, you do not have time to sleep, eat, or even shower! My nephews are 2 years old and 4 months. At this stage of their lives, depending on the child, the crying in the night, needing to breastfeed, getting a bottle, every couple hours, its always something! So then, after about 45 minutes of sleep intervals, the day starts at 5AM, if at all because sometimes, the day before never ended. . .

You constantly try to keep the kids happy; making sure that they are warm, eaten enough, you go outside, you play, anything so they don't cry. But no matter how hard you try, they still cry. Children cry for many reason and sometimes, you just can't figure it out! It gets frustrating. And you want to scream, but you don't, you just breathe and continue your day. You try to do housework, dishes, laundry, cook, clean, the list goes on, and yet, you do none of it. As soon as you try to do something, the kids call your name begging for your attention, pulling on whatever part of you that they can. You are ready to explode! Dang it, you just want to do clean the plates! But you look down, and then they say, "hug!" Your heart melts as you bend down and hug them and say "I love you"

As trying as it is to be a mom, it's those moments that make all the tiredness and frustration go away.

I see the dark puffy eyes my sister gets because she hasn't slept in days. I see how demanding the kids can be calling her attention 24/7/365. I see how upset they get with each other. But I see how much love they give each other too. I see all the hugs and kisses and all the "I love you"s and that is what being a mom is all about!!!

As an auntie, I see much. But I don't have the full experience of being a mom. Seeing how trying it is and what really happens, I say, I am glad I'm just the aunt! But I like to think that I am more prepared now then before for when it's my turn to be a mom!